Tony is another man who admits to having abused a woman. In an e-mail to Oprah, he said he beat a previous girlfriend so badly she bled. "I couldn't express myself verbally, so I would take it out on her physically," Tony wrote. "The thing that triggered me was that I was insecure as a person. To see her stare at another man, or to see her have a conversation with another man, or if she confronted me about anything, it enraged me."
Though Tony says he knew, even in the moment, that he shouldn't being doing what he was doing, he says he couldn't stop.
Tony says he's trying to make amends for his previous actions by speaking out against domestic violence whenever he can. "[I want] to say, by grace and remorse, that I'm still here today," he says. "I made it through."