Another vital step in ending the abuse of women and girls, Kevin says, is making sure that men who abuse receive the proper counseling . "It's got to be a commitment over time around getting to the root causes of it so you can begin to heal," he says. "I can say that I've been in counseling for the past 20 years."
Kevin says faith has also helped him, but it's only one piece of the puzzle. "What oftentimes happens is that people will think because they're at a church or a synagogue or a mosque or whatever their particular faith is that they're okay. No. Are you really dealing with where this emotional hurt came from?" he says. "Mental development has to happen, emotional development."
Kevin says healing doesn't only happen when talking to a therapist or pastor. It also happens through support groups or advocacy organizations. "Part of this is that we have got to make a commitment to becoming allies in speaking out against this," he says. "Are you willing for the rest of your life to commit verbally, emotionally, spiritually to challenging any forms of violence toward women and girls?" he says. "That's the kind of work we need to get to."