One comment Oprah made during her interview with four child predators touched a nerve with some viewers. During the discussion, Oprah said if an abuser does his or her job well, the abuse feels good. This can add to a victim's feelings of shame and confusion.

A survivor of sexual abuse, Diane, calls in to share a differing viewpoint, based on her own violent childhood. "I just wanted to make people aware that it's not always that you're going to feel good or get pleasure from [sexual abuse]. A lot of times, it's fear and intimidation. It's abuse," she says. "It's the fear of being beat again. It's the abuser using abuse to get you to do what they want."

Diane says it never felt good from the first time she was raped at 9 years old until the abuse stopped just before her 13th birthday. "There was violence throughout my childhood," she says. "He abused us enough that, when he said he was going to do something, we believed it."

Diane says she and her sister, who was abused by the same man, were intimidated into keeping their terrible secret. "When he said he would kill us, we believed him," she says.

Oprah says she understands where survivors like Diane are coming from. "There are many situations where that happens," she says. "And as I've said before on this show, I'm speaking broadly and in, of course, general terms."
FROM: The Most Dangerous Child Sex Offenders in America
Published on April 12, 2010


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