Shane from Van Nuys, California, has a dating question for Cate. "I'm not your typical 25-year-old male, I'm not looking for bar bunnies, but I need your help," Shane says. "What qualities should I bring out in myself? What were you looking for when you found your husband?"
Cate says that in a relationship it is important to be able to laugh, but more importantly your bodies must be compatible. "Someone once said to me, and I think it's quite true, that if your bodies actually fit together when you're sleeping in bed—I'm not going to get into too much detail—you're in good stead," Cate says.
"You mean when you're spooning?" Oprah asks.
"When you can spoon with someone, then you're okay," Cate says. "Because you might not vote the same way, you might not have the same politics, but sometimes that works for people."
Cate also says her husband has the qualities she admires in a man. "I think it's a sense of humor, and also my husband is a very strong individual," Cate says. "So he's happy for my success, and I'm happy for his."