I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood
By Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile
Oprah.com | March 11, 2009
7 Steps to Getting a Grip on Judgment
Start to become aware of the moments when you negatively judge yourself.
Strive for your own personal best instead of 100 percent perfect.
Open yourself up to recognizing good-mom moments. Even the small things—like spending ten minutes of one-on-one time or reading a book together—matter.
When you're about to judge someone or yourself, ask why you're doing it. One mom told us that she decided to say
every time she had a judgmental thought. She was surprised at how often that was.
If you find yourself judging someone, try to put yourself in that mom's position and look at the issue from her perspective.
Let go of judgments of others on what's come to be known as "normal."
Make sure your support system is working for you. As one mom put it, "it's not a real moms' group unless someone's crying."
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