Jenny says her home in Sydney, Australia, hasn't been a happy one because she is struggling with a troubled marriage. "I first became separated early this year," she says. "I'd only been married just over a year, and I felt my husband changed quite a lot and we wanted different things. At first, my reaction was an egoic one, and I was angry and I reacted with self-pity."
Jenny says a passage on page 8 of A New Earth helped her let go of her negative emotions. On this page, Eckhart writes, "When you can recognize the unconsciousness in you, that which makes the recognition possible is the arising consciousness, is awakening. You cannot fight against the ego and win, just as you cannot fight against darkness. The light of consciousness is all that is necessary. You are the light."
Although she and her husband are still separated, Jenny says she now reacts to her husband without anger. "Reading Tolle and accepting what he is and realizing that advice about pain-bodies, we're just trying to be built up, and our egos were trying to be inflated, that really helped me," she says. "When I read Eckhart say that's what was happening, to not do that, and to let go, that was quite a relief."