Every potential parent who visits a sperm bank has different criteria for the perfect donor dad—height, weight, hair color, IQ.
When Mary was given a stack of donor profiles to sort through, she says Matthew's stood out from the rest. Though privacy concerns prevented her from seeing more than half of his face in a photograph, she chose him to be her unborn child's biological father. "He was a pediatrician. He had very diverse interests, which made me think that he [used his] left brain and right brain," she says. "I just thought that was a wise choice."
Mary got pregnant using Matthew's sperm. Now, she's the mom of a 2-year-old daughter, Alexandra. When the time is right, Mary says she plans on telling her daughter the truth about her birth. "I don't want to keep any secrets from her because I just don't believe in it," she says. "She doesn't ask me too many questions yet. ... Right now, she's living in a perfect world. I love her, and she's loved by a lot of people, so she's not missing anything."