Reactions from family members of sperm donors can vary greatly when donor-conceived children come into their lives. While Phillip's family struggled to make the adjustment, Matthew's wife Nicole says she was happy when Matthew heard from the mothers of his biological children.
"When they first contacted us—well, contacted Matthew—I was pregnant with our child, and that was hard. It took us several years for us to conceive, so I think it would have been harder had I not been able to conceive," she says. "But [since we were] carrying our own child, we were just so happy, and I was so proud of him."
As a pediatrician, Nicole understands why donor-conceived children would want contact with their biological fathers. "I care about kids, and I know kids have questions," she says. "I can understand the need to get to know Matthew, and I think that would be great, because I think he's great, obviously."