Anderson says he and his brother Carter were close growing up, but after their father's death they didn't spend a lot of time working through their grief together. "My mom would talk about it and talk about [my dad], but I think both my brother and I felt it was really difficult to go there, to talk about it," Anderson says. "The loss was so deep. I sort of felt it easier to kind of run from it than address it and think about it."
Carter took the loss particularly hard, and over the years continued to struggle. When he was 23, shortly after graduating from college, Carter seemed unhappy with his job. He also went through a painful breakup with his girlfriend, Anderson says. Not sure where to turn, Carter moved back to his mother's home.
On July 22, 1988, just 19 days after the last time he saw Carter, Anderson received a shocking phone call from his mom. "He had killed himself," Anderson says. "He'd jumped off the balcony of our apartment building—right in front of my mother."