It all came crashing when Karen was laid off and gained weight. Now, she says, "I feel like a train wreck. I've just given up on everything. I just totally, emotionally let myself go. It was an emotional meltdown. I lay on the couch eating snacks and sleeping all day and watching sad movies and crying all day. It [started as] a pity party for six months. I don't even try to look good anymore. I have no reason to get up in the morning to get dressed. Having a 3-year-old and feeling old is just very difficult. I'm out of shape and I can't keep up with her anymore."