Dr. Robin says that we'll often treat ourselves in the same way that our abusers treated us. The abused will mirror the ways in which they were mistreated.
"You talked about being made to do sexual things that were degrading and horrible and made you feel like an object, like you weren't really a person," Dr. Robin says to Nathalie. "So guess what we do? When we don't feel like a person, we start treating ourselves like an object: shoving food in our mouths, smoking, drinking, neglecting ourselves."
Therefore, if you are harming yourself because of past abuse, it's incredibly important to understand what is going on and to put a stop to it. "You've got to get rid of that old tape—that lie—that says you are not valuable because somebody else rejected, harmed, cheated you," Dr. Robin says.