Suze says many women like Sylvia stay in relationships because they can't afford to leave. "So they have to hope that he's still going to save them because they don't know what else to do," Suze says. "Money is so key, because if Sylvia had had money, she would have been out of there. All the women that I talk to that are in battered relationships stay because they don't know what else to do."
Instead of relying on a man for financial stability, Suze says every woman should be able to take care of herself. So Suze created a "save yourself" plan, which she outlines in her book Women & Money .
Even if a woman doesn't have a job, Suze says she can scrape together some money to fall back on. "There's not one of you who has an excuse of not having money. You have $10 here, $20 there," Suze says. "If Sylvia had put $10 a month away for the whole time she was with him, just $10, she would have had $3,000, $4,000, $5,000. That could have been enough for her to leave."
Suze says a woman can create her "save yourself" plan by working on it for just 24 hours a month. "It could be three hours here, five hours here, and you do everything that I say for five consecutive months," Suze says. "I promise you in five months, you will have your 'save yourself' plan in order so what happened to Sylvia, where she had to call on her family and friends, you won't have to do that because you'll be a woman who does own the power to control her destiny."