"This is not something I would have done a month or two or even a year ago, but I am proud of myself," she says. "It's still a work in progress, but I feel better."
Shayla says Dr. Berman's assignments—particularly writing the letters to her parents—were "shockingly helpful." According to Dr. Berman, this is because there were so many things left unsaid for Shayla. By writing the letters and finding some closure with her parents, Shayla was able to break down a wall that stood between her and intimacy.
"The most important people in my life are gone—that is a fact," Shayla says. "I can either choose to deal with it, to process it and to move forward, or I can stay where I was. And I was too afraid to move forward."
Dr. Berman says she has seen huge progress in both Carmen and Shayla. They've each been able to open their hearts and minds, she says.
"The bottom line is for all of us, especially women, is you need to know that everything you want, you can have for yourself," Dr. Berman says. "You don't have to depend on anyone else. If you want to take the reins of your life, you can create the love in your life that you most want."
Read an excerpt from Dr. Berman's new book, It's Not Him, It's You!