- See yourself as changing all the time.
- Encourage change in others.
- When you hear yourself uttering a fixed opinion, stop.
- When someone offers a counter opinion, don't resist.
- Argue from the opposite side every once in a while.
- Don't stamp out the fragile beginnings of change, either in yourself or others.
- Stop being absolute. Let your attitude be more flexible and provisional.
- Don't take pride in being right.
Habits keep us trapped. Everyone knows what it means to be caught up in habitual behavior—habits keep married couples fighting the same argument for years. It makes us plop down on the couch rather than working for change. It reinforces bad diets and lack of exercise. In general, habit chooses inertia over energy. Here, the force of "no" is fairly obvious—or is it? If you look at it without negative judgments, a habit is nothing more than a useful shortcut, an automatic pathway imprinted in the brain. A skilled pianist has imprinted the habit of moving his fingers a certain way; he wouldn't want to reinvent his technique every time he sat down at the keyboard. A short-order cook who can turn out six omelets at a time relies on the fact that his brain is imprinted with a set of automatic motions timed precisely.
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