"There are two emotions: love and fear." — Iyanla Vanzant
"You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people. But until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed." — Iyanla Vanzant
"We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave me. Because I don't really think you want me anyhow.'" — Iyanla Vanzant
"You are never angry for the reason you think you are. There's an older hurt under that."
— Iyanla Vanzant
"My favorite definition [of forgiveness] is giving up the hope that the past could be any different."
"Create what you want as opposed to being stuck in what you didn't have." — Iyanla Vanzant
"The best students get the hardest lessons." — Iyanla Vanzant
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