Dr. Robin recently received a voicemail from "John," a self-described proud gay man. John's message to Dr. Robin has been haunting her since she heard it—in it, John explains that every time he visits his parents, he is taunted by the next door neighbors, who call him derogatory names and spew hateful comments.
"What in the world is going on that we could find ourselves attacking another human being with poison and hate?" Dr. Robin asks. It's about ignorance, it's about the fear of being different and it's about not understanding, she says.
Dr. Robin wonders what happened to our humanity. The problem lies not only with those who spew the hatred, but also those who allow it to happen. "Do you know why you should care?" Dr. Robin asks. "You should care because it is your divine birthright as a human being to be concerned about how another person is being treated. You can't love yourself and set out to destroy another human life or soul."
"We can't have hate, we can't harbor hate, we can't spew hate toward another human being, toward another life, toward any living creature, and not think that it isn't going to ricochet and boomerang back into our lives," Dr. Robin says. "If you are digging a hole because you have rage or bitterness or hate, and you plan to bury someone else in it, you'd better dig two holes: one for you, and one for them. Because you can't take someone else down and not take yourself down with them."
Printed from Oprah.com on Wednesday, March 12, 2014