According to Rabbi Shmuley, many women strive for an unrealistic ideal of perfection...but in her quest to become the perfect mother, the perfect wife and the perfect everything, today's superwoman can wind up becoming stressed out and dissatisfied instead. Rabbi Shmuley shares his thoughts on how to set reasonable expectations and embrace yourself—flaws and all.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to have the perfect body. "You're beautiful," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Stop trying to be the perfect mom. "You're going to screw up your kids just a little bit, hopefully not too much," he says. "It's going to happen because we're all human. We're not perfect."
Accept that your marriage isn't going to be perfect. "There are going to be hills and valleys," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Expect that you're going to have financial challenges in life.
Learn to love your age. You're going to get older. "Stop obsessing over birthdays," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Know that you're going to get frustrated and tired. "You're going to sometimes feel like your life isn't what you want it to be...it's called existential angst. It's natural; it's normal," he says.
"Wonder Woman was a fictional character on TV. Were she real, she'd still be boring as molasses, as most perfect people are. Perfection means you never have to show character, you never have to fight for what's right, you never have to struggle. That all comes so naturally, and it therefore involves no exertion. [It's] much better to embrace your flawed humanity and therefore strive to be your best, and therefore become better every day."
Printed from Oprah.com on Tuesday, December 10, 2013