Have you ever heard someone use the expression, "I'm having a stupid moment?" Dr. Robin says people often say they're having a "stupid moment" when they recognize the fact that they've said or done something without really thinking. For Dr. Robin, acting stupid can be anything that isn't the real you. "What I mean by stupid is something that's out of character for someone who takes themselves seriously—who lives a life of honor and respect for themselves and other people," she says.
When you have a lapse of good judgment, Dr. Robin says you need a plan to help you get smart again and reconnect with yourself. If you say or do something offensive in your stupid moment, she says you may need to learn how to apologize. If you lie during a stupid moment, you may need to figure out how to come clean and tell the truth.
"I want you to come up with a plan—it may be a poem, it may be a saying, it may be a song—that calls you back out of the depths of stupidity and into the light of living what is true," Dr. Robin says.
Published on July 31, 2007