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Dr. Robin Smith

Do you beg other people for acceptance, love or friendship? Whether you're down on your hands and knees imploring your lover not to leave you, pleading with your family to accept you or groveling to get your boss to acknowledge your hard work, know that any form of begging is harmful behavior, Dr. Robin says. "Each time you do it, you chip away at your own dignity, at your honor, at your own self-respect," she says. "So it's dangerous to be begging anyone."

Not only does begging break down your self-respect, it simply doesn't work, Dr. Robin says. "When we beg someone, we give more of our power away," she says. "We make them inflated in terms of how important they are, and we deflate our own self-importance—we make ourselves into nothing."

Decide today to stick up for yourself, choose respect and stop begging anyone for anything, Dr. Robin says. "That's teaching someone that it's okay to mistreat you," she says. "You don't want to give someone that much power, nor do you want to drain yourself of your power."
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