What is a soul mate and how do you find soul mate love? Oprah finds out the answers to these questions as she talks with author Kathy Freston about her book The One: Discovering the Secrets of Soul Mate Love. Oprah says Kathy's ability to take seemingly complex theories and break them down to easy-to-digest ideas is impressive, and her book offers easy-to-follow advice for anyone looking for truly soulful love.

Kathy says anyone can find the one for them and the love they desire by being a soulful person and letting go of the fantasy of what you think love should be. She says living in the present and being aware—with your heart open wide—is the first step toward finding soulful love.

"When you are waiting for life to happen, then what you are putting out there is that life will happen one day—instead of it just happening right now," she says.