If someone is breathing down your neck, waiting impatiently behind you in the grocery line or tailgating you on the road, you may find it difficult to allow that person to go ahead of you. Dr. Robin says even though it can be tough to step aside, you should. Perhaps that person is in a hurry for an important reason. "It's good to recognize how we can help someone and be of help to someone," she says.
However, you shouldn't brag to others about your kind actions, Dr. Robin says. "If we are doing it so that someone can say we are such a good person or so someone can give us our applause or kudos, then our motives are wrong."
Dr. Robin says if you share authentic goodness with others—especially to those who are treating you without consideration—you will be rewarded. "Make sure that your intentions are because you want to be more full of grace and well-being, because you want to share your goodness in the world with everyone you meet and because you want it shared with you."
Published on January 01, 2008