Does your child ever say "I hate you" after you forbid them from taking part in an activity that may cause them harm? Your child might utter those three hurtful words in a fit of anger, but Dr. Robin says keeping your child safe is more important than being a "cool" parent. "Forget the fear, forget the popularity contest," she says. "It is your job, it is your watch and it is fully, 100 percent, your responsibility to do the true job of being a good parent."
The next time your child breaks his or her curfew or comes home smelling of smoke or alcohol, you must let them know that their behavior won't be tolerated, Dr. Robin says. While they may "hate" you for your rules now, they will love you for your guidance someday, she says.
"Make sure you know that to love your child, you have to have limits, you have to have boundaries," Dr. Robin says. "That is just one of the ways that you show your profound and lasting love for the ones you love and you are responsible for."