We buy the latest handheld gadget, the newest organizer and the best calendar software because our lives are just plain overbooked and we'll do anything to keep our crazy schedules, assignments and requests organized, Rabbi Shmuley says. However, he says that there is a free, revolutionary, two-letter solution to your hectic lifestyle—just say no. "It's an impossibly short word. Why is it so hard for many of us to say?" Rabbi Shmuley asks.
Rabbi Shmuley talks about the reasons for our constant acquiescence and how guilt, fear of rejection, burnout and insecurity can play a part in our inability to say no to people who ask too much of us.
"Insecurity is the inability to say no. In life, we should be giving and accommodating. But we dare not become pushovers. Every doormat says 'Welcome,' and you're a person, not a rug. Say yes to those things which virtue, morality and duty dictate should be accepted. Say no to those things which your conscience tells you is wrong."
Published on July 07, 2008