It's not uncommon to want revenge when you've been wronged, Dr. Robin says. You might not do anything drastic, but you may try to find some way to get even and make sure that person pays for what he did. Or, you may just sit back and take pleasure when that individual experiences some hardship or misfortune of her own.
Dr. Robin says taking revenge or having vengeful thoughts will end up hurting you in the process. Quoting Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., she says, "The old rule of an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind." Before you take revenge, consider that your choice will deplete and corrupt your own heart, energy, mind and soul, she says. "Retaliation and acting out is a cancer that will eat away at the very core of your own goodness, your own well-being and your own peace," Dr. Robin says.
Published on January 01, 2008