Are you constantly comparing yourself to other parents? Do you always wonder if you've done something wrong? Rabbi Shmuley says we live in a society that invites constant comparison and, in a desire to be perfect, people actually become imperfect.
What happens when you try to be the perfect parent is that you bring an unrealistic standard into your home that no one can live up to, Rabbi Shmuley says. Nothing is ever good enough and, as a result, you raise your children to feel stressed, under pressure and unable to forgive themselves for being human, Rabbi Shmuley says. "The healthy parents are the ones who show their humanity. Humanity is found in the struggle and hard work," he says.
Rabbi Shmuley shares advice on how to be a better, more human parent.
"Imperfection is overrated. It creates false standards, and it's an outright rejection of our humanity. It's never good to make our kids feel like failures. Remember, it is far better to have a human household filled with light and laughter than one filled with so-called 'perfect people.'"
Published on July 22, 2008