If you're experiencing cold feet about your upcoming wedding, it's absolutely normal, Rabbi Shmuley says. He talks about why you're feeling nervous or confused before your wedding and how to overcome your anxiety.
Many couples become emotionally paralyzed by looking at marriage as the biggest decision of their lives, Rabbi Shmuley says. "After couples get engaged, they often start wondering, 'Is this really the right person for me?'" he says.
Rabbi Shmuley shares advice on how to get rid of pre-wedding doubts:
Talk to friends about it. "Don't talk to single friends who you know will convince you to stay single," Rabbi Shmuley says. "Rather talk to friends who are in happy marriages and can give you good advice
Ask your parents for advice. "Young people have this incredible resource in their parents, who know [them] better than anyone," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Pray about it. Use prayer as an articulation of your most deeply held values. "It can help you clarify what is really important to you," he says.
"Cold feet syndrome is nearly universal when we characterize a decision as the biggest event of our life. If you have cold feet, speak to good friends, think deeply about your priorities and don't magnify or invent problems that don't really exist."
Printed from Oprah.com on Wednesday, December 11, 2013