Everyone makes mistakes—it's whether you recognize you did something wrong that is the important lesson, Dr. Robin says. As human beings, we can be "as blind as a bat" and self-righteous in many situations, she says. When something goes wrong, whether it is in regard to raising your children, making a decision in your marriage or helping out a friend, it's important to recognize that you may be at fault.
Dr. Robin says it is important not to walk around with the illusion that we have not hurt people, because it can end up really harming our relationships. "This is one thing that I am 100 percent positive of … you are an offender, you are a perpetrator, you are someone who harms people," Dr. Robin says. "You are also someone who has been victimized by people, offended by people, and you are someone who has been harmed by people."
Start looking at the times when you may have brought harm to someone or hurt them when you didn't mean to. "Open your eyes with compassion, tenderness and care," Dr. Robin says. "Let the light of the truth light your path so you can create relationships that allow you to live your best life."