What makes some children act like little angels, while other children behave in exactly the opposite manner? According to Rabbi Shmuley, parents play the biggest role in determining whether a child will be "good" or "bad." He offers the following parenting guidelines to ensure your child turns out to be a good egg:
Never model bad behavior to your children. Don't swear, lose your temper or gossip in front of them, Rabbi Shmuley says. Also, don't use aggressive, bullying behavior in their presence, he says.
Present a positive view of the world to your children. "Let them go into the world with optimism at their core, instead of brokenness at their core," Rabbi Shmuley says.
Talk to your kids. Ask them questions about school, their friends and their classmates, Rabbi Shmuley says.
"Some theories believe children are born innocent, good and meek. Others believe that children are born narcissistic, mean-spirited and competitive. Both are wrong. The truth lies somewhere in the middle. Children are born neither good nor bad, but neutral. Children will emulate our behavior. If we scream at home, they will scream at school. If we show a sense of woundedness toward the world, they will become victims. If we show love and model generosity, they will have large hearts. We must be conscious of the fact that our children are always listening and watching."
Printed from Oprah.com on Tuesday, December 10, 2013