If you've been abused, misused or taken advantage of, can you ever really heal and change? Dr. Robin says not only can you transform, but you'll also be happier than if you remain married to misery. "Make the decision that even though it's not easy, yes, you can change," she says.
Even Dr. Robin has had her doubts about whether she could overcome something. Part of the challenge is that after we've transformed ourselves, we'll have moments of struggle again, she says. "We can increase the amount of time that we have more peace and less torment," Dr. Robin says. "We can have longer periods where we live feeling at one with ourselves and the people who we love, instead of out of sync with them."
Dr. Robin challenges you accept this concept and make a change in your life. "You can be the one family member who makes the decision to do the work of recovery, to get away from the ugly, harmful and tormenting clutches of addition," she says. "Let's remember that today can be your beginning, to begin your life, so that it really becomes the best life that you can live."
Printed from Oprah.com on Monday, December 9, 2013