When you are feeling sad, do you allow yourself to cry and let your loved ones know that you are upset? What about when you are scared or stressed? Dr. Robin says the idea that powerful and respected people hide their feelings of sadness, grief or embarrassment is very popular in our society. "We don't often hear people in power talk about their vulnerabilities, their places that are rough," she says. "[Instead], we love the feelings of strength and power, we love to feel that we are in control, we love to feel that we have the answer."
To really be a powerful person, Dr. Robin says you must have access to all your feelings. Dr. Robin says that your feelings—both good and bad—need to be acknowledged by you and by others.
"Embrace, manage and figure out how to be fully human," Dr. Robin says. "Take every feeling that you have and every experience—those that have left you feeling really intact and those that really threw you off your course—and use all of it to live your very best life."
Printed from Oprah.com on Thursday, December 5, 2013