Oftentimes, when we make big sacrifices in life, we expect big returns. If we move to a new city for a job or a relationship, we might expect that company or that person to make us happy and content in our new environment. On the flip side, when things don't go according to plans, we often blame those same outside forces for our problems.
So whose job is it to really make sure that the decisions we make are good for us? Dr. Robin says that responsibility rests with you. Before you make a big life decision, evaluate your options, do your homework and get to know the details of your new job or the real character of the person with whom you're involved. Then, take ownership of your decision and the consequences that follow.
"You be the one to make the assessment—to discriminate about what's good for you—and then you decide what path you're going to take," Dr. Robin says. "If it works out, then you pat yourself on the back, and if doesn't, then you pull yourself up and you try again."