Do you feel like you are always trying to keep up with someone else? Maybe you are trying to keep pace with a sibling, friend or co-worker? Dr. Robin says there is a fine line between admiring someone and using someone as a measuring stick. "It is fine to have people who are your role models but it is something different to decide that your role model becomes an idol—that they become the person that you want to become instead of learning from the way they are doing things," she says.
Instead of feeling like you don't measure up if your friends are married before you are or all of your siblings are home owners and you rent, Dr. Robin says you should concentrate on going at your own pace.
"The measuring stick for your life must become yourself—your heart, your own union with the universe," she says. "Stop looking outside of yourself for the answers and for your rhythm and for your pacing and [instead] go within."
Printed from Oprah.com on Sunday, December 8, 2013