What are you doing for your dad this Father's Day? Are your plans anywhere near as elaborate as what you did for your mom on Mother's Day? Dr. Robin says that fathers often get the short end of the stick when it comes to being honored and celebrated. She says it is time to reverse that trend. "We need to own that fathers have been displaced, they have been disenfranchised all too often," she says.
Instead of ignoring Father's Day this year or just giving Dad a call, Dr. Robin says you should go the extra mile—just as you do for Mom on Mother's Day. "We haven't valued fathers in the way we do our mothers, and that is not good for us," she says. "Sometimes dads are on the outside because you put them there, because you were taught to put them there, because you were trained that men were disinterested in how their kids were really feeling," she says.
Dr. Robin says that, oftentimes, many men want to play a more nurturing role in their children's lives, but society doesn't let them. "Men are so stripped of their emotions and their hearts and their right to carry all of their thoughts and feelings," she says.
This year, Dr. Robin says you should make Father's Day fair for Dad and celebrate him by making dinner reservations, flying in for the weekend or spending time doing something that he loves. If you are a dad, Dr. Robin says it is time to step up and share your feelings with your family. "Walk in the light of not just being a father who functions but a father who is full with feelings," she says.
Printed from Oprah.com on Wednesday, June 19, 2013