When things in your life don't seem to be working in your favor, it's easy to feel bad about yourself. Dr. Robin says that instead of believing the feelings you have about yourself when you are at your worst, you should focus on the facts. "You've got to hold on to the facts of who you really are at your core—your goodness, your compassion, your generosity—until your feelings of who you are catch up," she says.
What are the facts about you and your life? Dr. Robin says focusing on who you are and what you have is more important than focusing on what you don't have and how you feel about yourself. "Your feelings can misguide you—they can make you think that because you are feeling something, that it is so," she says. Feelings come and go and constantly change, whereas facts are real. "You have got to be able to see yourself accurately before your feelings are in alignment with what the facts are," she says.
Printed from Oprah.com on Wednesday, March 12, 2014