According to Dr. Robin, you have the ability to teach others how you want to be treated. If you tolerate abuse, ridicule or mistreatment, people will continue to treat you with disrespect, she says. "When you smile at something that is derogatory, at something that is demeaning, at something that is unkind, you in that moment are teaching [others] how to treat you," she says.
When you stand up for yourself and carry yourself with poise and dignity, Dr. Robin says people will learn to treat you with honor. "What it means is that you've taught people that that's what you deserve—it's what you desire and you will not settle for less," she says.
Modify your own behaviors and your own attitude to teach the people in your life what you will and will not accept, Dr. Robin says. "Decide today what lessons you want to put out there in the world—in your universe—so that you can transform your life and transform your relationships," she says.