Have you ever been disconnected mid-sentence when talking on your cell phone? A dropped phone call may not be such a big deal, but Dr. Robin says getting disconnected in the middle of a relationship or other important areas of life can be really painful. "All of the sudden something happens to disconnect you from that moment of promise," she says.
While losing connection with someone you love—or a goal or dream you care about—can be devastating, Dr. Robin says sometimes it's better to disconnect. "There are times when the energy between you and someone in your life, it is so toxic, it is necessary to disconnect," she says.
Dr. Robin says that if you are in a relationship with someone you love—who doesn't love you back in the same way—then you should probably disconnect. "Sometimes it is necessary to disconnect—it is actually healthy and essential to your well-being," she says. "If you are trying to hold on to the wrong thing, then you are really avoiding what you need to let go."
If someone disconnects with you, Dr. Robin says you should evaluate the situation before you try to repair the connection. "There are times in which you just have to accept and invite that disconnection," she says. "It could be your gift and bridge."
Published on June 13, 2007