Do you have a witness? Are you a witness? Dr. Robin says it's the cry of every human heart to have a witness who acknowledges your existence, who shares in the magical and the mundane aspects of your life, and who is concerned about your well-being. "We want someone to witness that our existence actually happened," Dr. Robin says.
Dr. Robin says everyone needs a witness to his or her life. There are a billion people on the planet, she says, but what does any one life really mean? "In a marriage, in a commitment, in a friendship, in that sacred union with another human being, you're promising to care about everything—the good things and the bad things, the terrible things and the mundane things. All of it, all the time, every day. You're saying, 'Your life will not go unnoticed, because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.'"
Dr. Robin suggests both becoming a witness to someone's life, as well as allowing someone to become a witness in your own life. "What does any one life mean, really mean, to all of the millions and billions [of people in the world]? It means nothing. But it's got to mean something to someone."
Printed from Oprah.com on Thursday, December 12, 2013