Do you have a beautiful set of china collecting dust in a cupboard? Are your finest clothes hanging in your closet, waiting for a "good enough" occasion to be worn? It's time to stop letting the nice things you own sit idle, Dr. Robin says. "What are you saving it for?" she asks.

When you break out the good stuff and use it lovingly, Dr. Robin says you are recognizing and honoring the special things you have acquired. "Pull out the best! The best sheets, the best linens—all of the things you save for someone else because they are special," she says. "Make yourself the object of that which is special."