Are there times when you could ask for help, but don't? Have you ever hurt yourself because you decided to take on a tough job all by yourself? Dr. Robin says she recently bruised her leg and thigh when moving two television sets on her own. She says she could have asked a friend or neighbor for help, but didn't. "To have these black and blue marks on my leg, it has awakened an awareness in me that something is really off," she says. "I am heartsick that I didn't think enough of myself in those moments that I wouldn't have asked for the help that was so readily available to me."
While Dr. Robin says that she likes to think that she practices good self-care, she says allowing herself to get hurt instead of asking for help was not a smart thing to do. "Being a grown-up—being mature, being healthy and strong—is about good self-care," she says. "It is about utilizing all the resources that are at your disposal, financially, emotionally and socially."
Look at the black and blue marks on your arms and legs. Where did they come from? Could they have been prevented? "Instead of ending up black and blue with a wound or an ache, use your energy, use your mind and use your might, so you can speak peace and well-being to every area of your life," Dr. Robin says. "Make the decision today that when you need help, you ask for it instead of doing it the hard way."
Published on June 22, 2007