A line from the movie Hanging Up caught Dr. Robin's attention recently. She says the movie—about three sisters caring for their aging father—reaches a climactic scene toward the end of the film when someone says to one of the sisters, "I want to make a toast to your bravery and your grief."
Dr. Robin says that, often, life is difficult and bravery and grief are required. "There are times when you are all over the place, your mind has been flooded," she says. "Part of what is required is your courage, your bravery." Recognizing your bravery and toasting to your ability to deal with unfortunate situations is something that Dr. Robin says is healthy. "Make room to toast your grief," she says, "Part of being whole, part of living your very best life, part of being who it is you can be requires that."
If you don't feel that you have been brave or allowed yourself to grieve about difficult things going on in your life, Dr. Robin says it is time to start. "It's time now to toast the fact that you are going to be brave," she says. "That doesn't mean you won't be afraid—it means you are going to do what needs to be done."
Published on June 19, 2007