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Q: Over the past few months, I've gotten a funny feeling that my babysitter's boyfriend joins her at our house when my husband and I are out. When I question her, she denies it, but I find strange things in the garbage can, like two fast food meals. I want to set up a hidden camera, but my husband thinks that is unethical. Is it?
A: "By definition, using a hidden camera to try to catch people lying, cheating, stealing, or otherwise misbehaving means you don't trust them. And if you don't trust the person you entrust with your child (or house, pet, parents, finances), then you need to get rid of her. Forget about the hidden camera: Find someone you do trust."
— Jack Marshall, president, ProEthics
From the October 2008 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
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