Q: You know that two of your close friends don't get along—don't even like to be in the same room: Do you invite them both to your birthday party?
A: "Don't allow them to put you in the middle of their mess. Let your friends know that you love them both and that you're having a party. Allow them to decide for themselves whether their friendship with you is worth the struggle of being in the same room with their nemesis."
— Pastor Rudy Rasmus,pastor of St. John's United Methodist Church in Houston
"Unless this is your 5th birthday party, your friends should be mature enough not only to be in the same room but to clink glasses (gently) to your happiness. So put on the invitations 'BYOBB: Bring Your Own Best Behavior.'"
— Faith Salie,host of the public radio show Fair Game from PRI with Faith Salie
From the October 2007 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
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