Warning: May contain spoilers
1. "Was there a length to which a mother wouldn't go?" Consider the three Olson mothers in this novel and their relationships with their children. How does each mother protect her children, both physically and otherwise? What are their priorities as mothers? Do you think they have their priorities in order?
2. How is the concept of "home" addressed in this novel? What does it mean to be "home" for Kijo and Grandma Rose? For Priya? And for each of the Olsons?
3. Grandma Rose was adamant about keeping her house until the very last minute, when Kijo had to escort her from the porch before the wrecking ball hit. How did you feel at that moment? Were your feelings toward Grandma Rose and Kijo at all changed by your knowledge of Douglas and his financial situation? Were they changed by your knowledge that Grandma Rose had years earlier played a role in cleaning up her neighborhood by displacing people from the nearby projects?
4. "The idea that he was punishing her made him sick. It was himself he loathed. And yet in his obligations as a husband, he decided he was fulfilling his duty." If Gavin detested making Eleanor suffer, why do you think he was unable to stop himself from doing so? Also, what does Gavin consider to be his "obligations as a husband"? Does he fulfill them?
5. "It seemed to Gavin a sad and bitter irony that after all the knocks and blows he had suffered, his son ... cared only about money." How do Gavin and Douglas measure success? How does the historical context of their early years affect these differences? Who do you consider to be more "successful"? Who do you think is happier?
6. Every member of the Olson family has an encounter of sorts with a non-white character. Why did the author include these particular elements of back story and how do they relate to the larger issues in the novel?
7. What did you think of Eleanor's actions at the end of the novel? Do you think she was fully in control of herself? In the epilogue, Ginny and Douglas can not even speak of the event. They remain unsure if Eleanor—now "sealed away in Westport, withdraw[n] from the world"—will ever return to the way she was. What do you think has changed for Eleanor?
8. Why do you think the character of Detective Bill O'Shea was introduced in the final part of the novel? What do his perspective and voice add to the story?
9. Denise eventually finds herself unable to stay married to Douglas. Do you think the events of Thanksgiving evening brought their marriage to an end, or was their divorce inevitable? If you think Denise knew the marriage was doomed, why was she unable to have an affair with Masood?
10. Why do you think Ginny was so suddenly and intensely drawn to Priya while in India? Once the two are back in the United States, what does Priya bring to Ginny's life, and vice versa? How did you feel about Priya being taken from Ginny at the end?
11. How do the various male characters in the novel conceive of masculinity? Are their ideas of manhood in sync with what the various female characters expect from men? In the final section of the novel, how do the men and women respond to the intrusion and how does this relate to Ginny's article on the role of the American warrior?
12. Ultimately, who or what do you think is to blame for the events that unfold?