Illustration: Olivia Barr
It's easier said than done, but after an argument, try thinking about forgiveness. "Choosing to forgive helps us see a situation through understanding and compassion," says Eileen Borris, director of training at the Institute for Multi-Track Diplomacy and author of Finding Forgiveness: A 7-Step Program for Letting Go of Anger and Bitterness
. "By making a problem yours to forgive, regardless of the behavior of the other person, you're giving yourself a profound degree of control."