Oprah: With the support of a lot of friends.
Mariane: And with Cuban music and Cuban coffee! I knew completely the challenge it was going to be. When I started this book, I didn't know if I was going to be able to finish it. And I knew every day was going to be a fight. Happiness is an everyday challenge. Some days I'm doing better than others. But even when I'm so sad, I still won't let them win.
Oprah: I've heard some of the pregnant widows of 9/11 say that a child is a gift because it is a happy reminder of their spouse. Others say it's very painful because it reminds you of what could have been. Which is it for you?
Mariane: I've gone through phases. Danny was a very happy and silly character, so I'm happy because Adam is happy and silly, too. That's a profound thing. That's also your curse. It's not only your life but also the life of your baby. And that's always very painful. But I trust Adam a lot. I see his relationships with people, and I realize that he has his own story. The pain of missing his father is mine, not his. There are many people who didn't lose a spouse, but their kids never know their fathers, either. It's difficult to scale pain. The first year, not having Danny around was really painful. But the baby probably saved my life.
Oprah: What do you want people to know most about your husband?
Mariane: That he was right: The world belongs to us, and it also belongs to us to change it. That's what I want people to know. Danny got killed in the hands of people who are racist and intolerant, but Danny was the opposite. And they would want me to become intolerant and racist—but twice more now, I say the world belongs to me. That is Danny's legacy.
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