Surrendering allows the truth to set us free. And how do we surrender? I
recently watched television interviews with two actresses, both in their late
fifties. Each was asked if she'd found anything good about aging. Both snapped,
"No. Nothing. It's horrible." A few days later, I saw Maya Angelou on TV. She
said that aging was "great fun" and gleefully described watching her breasts in
their "incredible race to see which one will touch my waist first." "Sure, the
body is going," she said. "But so what?" Ms. Angelou has said many wise things,
but I thought "So what?" was one of her wisest. It expressed the sweet
detachment of someone who has learned how to rest in her real being and knows
that it is made not of flesh or thought, but of love.
Human beings are remarkably adept at ignoring their own flaws and foibles, even when doing so leaves them miserable. Martha Beck explains why staring down your shortcomings (and learning to accept them) can put you on the path to lasting happiness.
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