Jancee Dunn Polls the Experts Q: How do you handle your spouse's telling you the same charming childhood story again and again?
A: "So what if he does? If you care about this person, what does it hurt to listen to the story again? Maybe if you hear the story again and really listen, you'll actually hear something different."
— Michele Wetherald, executive director of the American Association of University Women and a former ethics instructor
"Try to help your spouse identify other stories he might tell to avoid sounding like a broken record: 'But you know, an even more interesting thing happened a few years later when you…'" — Anita L. Allen, is a professor of law and philosophy specializing in privacy and ethics at the University of Pennsylvania Law School
"Active listening is an act of love. I've been a spouse for 22 years, and I've been learning one major lesson all that time: I have one mouth and two ears; therefore I try to listen twice as much as I speak every day." — Pastor Rudy Rasmus, leader of St. John's United Methodist Church in Houston. His first book is Touch: The Power of Touch in Transforming Lives (Baxter Press/Spirit Rising).