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6 Ways Couples Can De-clutter
By Julie Morgenstern
O, The Oprah Magazine  |  From the November 2002 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine
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Wanted: order in small, overcrowded apartment. Husband and wife each have their own systems. Mission impossible? Use these six steps to find organization in your own shared living space.


  • Take joint ownership of problems and solutions. Instead of starting sentences with "You should," try "How do we want to solve this?"
  • Assume the other person has a valid reason for his or her system. Listen carefully until you understand. Repeat back to confirm.
  • Concentrate on your shared goal: a home you both enjoy, where you can find your things. Be willing to compromise.
  • Stay focused. Avoid jumping from one project to another.
  • Schedule a mutually acceptable time to tackle clutter. Let the answering machine pick up calls.
  • Have fun. Get a little bell and ring it the minute either person breaks one of the rules.

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