Lisa says her girlfriends have been very supportive and call her every day. Steven, on the other hand, says he was upset after the gathering. "[Lisa's] support group was there and mine wasn't," Steven says. When Lisa and her friends went out afterwards, Steven says he felt further excluded. "[Lisa] kind of left me there," Steven says. "Kind of taking this all in on my own."
Dr. Robin says couples can't be mind readers. "When we are at our deepest levels of pain, we need to have an emergency kit which says, 'This is what I need from you.'" By not being open with each other, Lisa and Steven repeatedly set each other up to fail in their marriage.