"Be a Better You" winner Candace Morton is figuring out where she wants to channel her energies next through the "College of Candace." She has a gift for sales, a flare for interior design, and a passion for storytelling, with two screenplays in the works. She yearns to explore these venues more fully, but is held back by a painful thought shared by so many: If she pursues her dreams, will her family feel abandoned? Just the thought of it makes Candace feel heavy, weighted down, listless. She has three beautiful daughters, two of them living at home. She wants to be sure her kids feel loved and supported.
This case called for a different type of evidence gathering. I gave Candace what I cheerfully call the "Mommy Manipulation Homework" and set her the task of identifying the values she holds most dear and wants to pass along to her daughters. Candace had no trouble drawing up the list:
Reframing her creative aspirations this way lets Candace see them as a "win-win." Now she can feel freer to pursue her dreams, knowing that it will help her daughters learn to embody the values they'll need to pursue their own.
Using your Body Compass and taking your thoughts to court will help you stay on track just like Liz and Candace.
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Published on October 01, 2012
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